Where are you now?

Hello my dear friends, we find each other here once more, in this safe space, which we have created together.

The world outside keeps on spinning, the sun and the moon still visit us daily, impressing us with their splendor and light. But, where are we today?

I think, and feel that it is important to ask this question today. Where are we?, where are YOU?, living a life you have chosen and created for yourself, or living a life where everybody around you is more responsible for your own life than you?

Are you in a life where you are in control and decide your own course, or in a life where you are just a follower of the majority, even if that means going against your wishes and principles?

It is necessary to know where you are now, for only in the Now you can decide, only in the Now you can experience, only in the Now you can live.
The most comfortable and satisfied you are with the place or state you find yourself in now, the most gratifying your life becomes and your future turns into an adventure in which you decide the fate and the plot.

If you are not satisfied with the place where you find yourself, with your current situation, think: what’s missing?, what can you do about it?, how can you do it?, and most importantly: when do you want to start doing it?. If you are able to reason about these questions, and their respective answers, then you are ready to lead a radical change in your life and begin to experience the joy of living a life where you have full control.

Now that you know where you are today, ¿where will you be tomorrow?

In the Face of Change

Hello my dear friends, it has been a while since our last meeting here and I hope you all have had a good time, living the lives you have chosen to live and which you create every morning, every hour, every minute, and even every second.

Change oh Change. It’s everywhere, we can deny it, we can’t ignore it, we can’t pretend its not there. It’s in the news, it’s at work, it’s amongst your friends and family, it’s at home and more than anything, within you and your life.

Everything is changing at a rapid pace whether we see it, like it, appreciate it or not.Now, change is constant, stable and necessary, most people consider it positive too but, do we really know how to handle it? I thought we could talk about this on this occasion.

We know that change is the only thing that is certain apart from death, we know it and still we fear it tremendously. In the face of change we go through what I call this little “amnesia” phase, where we completely forget who we truly are, what we have accomplished, how loved and supported by our loved ones we are, and we suddenly become this helpless, fearful, clumsy and lonely, tiny little person, who feels totally lost.

Uncertainty and anxiety take over and we no longer know how to handle things. We start looking for information, guidance and direction almost everywhere, we think of every possible person who can help shine a light in our doubts and concerns, people with whom you haven’t spoken to for years, even some stranger would do.

We look everywhere, everywhere but within ourselves. For is only you who truly knows all the variables, all the fears, all the desires, all the pros, all the contras, all the tools, all the doubts…who could possibly judge better? There is nothing wrong in looking for opinions, especially from the people who care about you the most, but you must know my friend, they won’t solve it for you and ultimately; they simply can’t.

So what do we do? We go back to what we already know: TRUST.
You know it, I know it; you must trust yourself. If you truly are the creator of your own life, if its you who has made every choice in your life, then you are the one responsible for creating this chance, this opportunity, for what is change if not an extra way on your road, one that offers a new road, with new possibilities and new findings. You can always choose not to follow this road and continue on the same path, it’s all about choices and what to do is totally up to you. If change knocks on your door, it’s probably the right time for you to consider a change, but in the end you and only you decide whether you are really ready to take it or not.

We can decide to waste time and energy worrying about it, or we can invest it on checking the possibilities. We can escape from it doing whatever we want to do, hoping it will go away, or we can face it and truly look inside ourselves searching for directions, searching for something that rings true, looking for the reasons that brought this change in front of our door.

Measure your options; look at your possibilities; get opinions if you will, but above all: make sure you ask and truly listen to the one person whose opinion really matter: YOU.
For no one else can live your life, for no one else can make your choices, for no one else can replace you.

Good luck with handling the changes that knock on your door.

Big hugs to all of you.

Anxiety and Crisis...

Dear friends, welcome once more!

I know this is not new, we see it on the TV, we hear it on the Radio, we read it on the papers: “This is a hard time”, “We are in recession”, “We are going through a Crisis”, there are different ways to write it, but the message relayed is the same, it is everywhere, doesn’t matter how hard we try to ignore it.

Are you already feeling the anxiety taking over, every time more frequently? It would surprise you to know the big amount of people feeling extremely anxious, feeling confused and lost, and this message, the one that follows us everywhere, only helps feed this uncertainty creating within us a kind of anxiety we had never experienced before.


I watch people and listen to them wondering for how long they will remain in their jobs, whether they will be able to pursue the career they dream of, whether they will be able to afford the school they want their kids to study at, and others wonder whether the life they lead now is still the life they WANT to lead, or if they should make changes…there is a big deal of confusion and uncertainty, and even though most people think they are alone on this, the truth is that more and more of people share this feeling.

As I ponder this I wonder; where is the self-esteem, the trust, the faith?, since when our lives’ destiny depends on the headlines and the ups and downs of the banks?, aren’t we all unique beings, with our own special qualities and talents, who stand in our own feet and everyday decide how we are going to live our lives? I have come to the conclusion that the trust in ourselves is the answer. Self trust is the only solution to beat this anxiety.

When you trust yourself, there is no room for doubts, you know you are doing the right thing, in the right place, at the right time, you know that you are a unique being and that you are here, living this experience, because of your own decision, and that you and only you are responsible for your life, for every decision, for every thought, for every word and for every step you take, and therefore; you and only you are able to decide what you want to experience, and more importantly: HOW you want to experience it.

How do you choose to experience this phase of your life? The times we are living in are different, chaotic for some, exciting for others, how do YOU choose to live this?, do you choose to be part of the side where everyone has agreed that this is a big crisis, difficult and tough, and so they are willing to suffer?, or do you choose to be part of the other side (the less crowded one), who believe these times are just the beginning of the change the world needs to re-start and create new and better ways, new and better systems, and new opportunities?

We can open the door to anxiety and allow it to be our guest, to control and limit us, or we can trust ourselves, trust that we are exactly where we need to be, trust that we are not leading ourselves astray and we can choose to turn every single day into a new personal adventure so we can rediscover the things that, up until today, we have been taking for granted. At the same time, we can look around, look at the people we care about and see how many of them are living with anxiety as their guest, surely they are more than what we now think. And we must not forget that the best way to help them, is by being standards, by setting the example in our own lives, showing them with acts that it is indeed possible to live in these times with a smile upon our faces. Love yourself, take good care of yourself, be patient and tolerant with YOU, and trust yourself, for nobody else will do this for you, and just by being at peace with oneself can one be a standard, an example and a beacon of light for those around.

I leave you with this small reflexion and I send each an every one of you a BIG hug!

May the light always shine upon you to illuminate your path!