Right & Wrong

Recently a good friend of mine told me what she announced as a horrible deed she had committed, before she told me; she was already warning me that she would never do it again and I could feel how worried and confused she was.

While she was telling me her story, there were moments where she admitted that the whole experience had been enjoyable but she kept on saying she “knew” it was “WRONG”

But according to WHO was this experience WRONG? This reminded me of all the pre-conceptions, judgments and beliefs we carry around, and they are not even ours! We have inherited so much of this baggage from what we have been taught and told. Very few people actually endorse their own beliefs and live according to them because they have decided to do so.

But what happens with the rest? The rest just accepts them and tries to live up to them at the best of their abilities, but isn’t that exactly the kind of pattern, the kind of attitude and conformism that creates the increasingly high rates of unhappiness and depression in the world today?

The experience my friend shared with me, was by far one of the best things that could have happened to her, why? Because for the first time in her entire life, she dared to leave absolutely all of the pre-conceptions, judgments and inherited beliefs she was carrying around and surrendered completely to herself, she embraced self-trust and gave a massive step towards her own growth and evolution. For the first time, her own voice was ‘speaking’ lauder than everyone else’s!

Unfortunately, my poor friend soon enough put back on her backpack full of everything she had just summed the courage to leave behind, even if for a moment. And she felt the heavy weight of the backpack once more, suddenly her recent experience was now looked at through judgment-full eyes and her worse fears came over her. She felt bad, she felt worthless and utterly confused.

Soon she will realize that this experience is something she will remember as the first big leap on the way to hearing her own voice, to finally be herself despite the world.

How heavy is your backpack today?
How much of the contents are truly yours?
Whose voice speaks lauder?
Whose voice are you listening to?

This, being YOUR life, the only life you truly own; shouldn’t it be your own voice the one to lead you?

As far as I am concerned; I am going to let my voice scream out laud so I may never fail to hear it!

Light, Camera, Action!

My dear friends, welcome once more to The Light Planet!

I hope you all had a wonderful New Year celebration to give the warmest welcome to the starting year.

As a new year starts we renew our expectations and create new ideals about life and about ourselves. We wish to start the year well and so the first days we endeavour to be “better”, hoping to keep our renewed attitude during the rest of the year.

But many times our endeavours do not succeed, as the time goes by we tend to forget about our new year resolutions and we fall back to the same old routine, that which we promise ourselves we would change, that which we feel should be the reflexion of the path we want to follow, yes, that one which never really supports the vision of the life we wish to create.

At which point do we let go of that happy vision of ourselves?, what makes us forget out resolutions?, can we stop it?

If we are able to find the answers to the first and second questions, then we have already half the way in. It is important to identify the source of any action that creates a reaction within us. Each and every one of us is responsible and owner of him/herself, and therefore, the only Director of one’s life. The Director that is capable of change the script at his wish and desire, the one who plays in the constant search for characters and tools to recreate the situations he crafts in his mind, with which he can give birth to his master piece.

Just like this movie director, we are able to modify anything we wish or need to change. We can not change others, for each is owner of him/herself, but we can definitely change our attitude towards them, which modifies the dynamic of the interaction with others creating a new way of communicating and completely changing the outcome of our actions without trying to change them.

If we are not happy with the script, let’s change it, let’s give it a new sense, let’s change the characters if necessary, let’s play! Keep in mind that nothing else directs your life, not the stars, not the movement of the planets either, for that job is entirely yours and so your will shall overcome.

So, are you ready? Light, Camera, Action!

Where are you now?

Hello my dear friends, we find each other here once more, in this safe space, which we have created together.

The world outside keeps on spinning, the sun and the moon still visit us daily, impressing us with their splendor and light. But, where are we today?

I think, and feel that it is important to ask this question today. Where are we?, where are YOU?, living a life you have chosen and created for yourself, or living a life where everybody around you is more responsible for your own life than you?

Are you in a life where you are in control and decide your own course, or in a life where you are just a follower of the majority, even if that means going against your wishes and principles?

It is necessary to know where you are now, for only in the Now you can decide, only in the Now you can experience, only in the Now you can live.
The most comfortable and satisfied you are with the place or state you find yourself in now, the most gratifying your life becomes and your future turns into an adventure in which you decide the fate and the plot.

If you are not satisfied with the place where you find yourself, with your current situation, think: what’s missing?, what can you do about it?, how can you do it?, and most importantly: when do you want to start doing it?. If you are able to reason about these questions, and their respective answers, then you are ready to lead a radical change in your life and begin to experience the joy of living a life where you have full control.

Now that you know where you are today, ¿where will you be tomorrow?

In the Face of Change

Hello my dear friends, it has been a while since our last meeting here and I hope you all have had a good time, living the lives you have chosen to live and which you create every morning, every hour, every minute, and even every second.

Change oh Change. It’s everywhere, we can deny it, we can’t ignore it, we can’t pretend its not there. It’s in the news, it’s at work, it’s amongst your friends and family, it’s at home and more than anything, within you and your life.

Everything is changing at a rapid pace whether we see it, like it, appreciate it or not.Now, change is constant, stable and necessary, most people consider it positive too but, do we really know how to handle it? I thought we could talk about this on this occasion.

We know that change is the only thing that is certain apart from death, we know it and still we fear it tremendously. In the face of change we go through what I call this little “amnesia” phase, where we completely forget who we truly are, what we have accomplished, how loved and supported by our loved ones we are, and we suddenly become this helpless, fearful, clumsy and lonely, tiny little person, who feels totally lost.

Uncertainty and anxiety take over and we no longer know how to handle things. We start looking for information, guidance and direction almost everywhere, we think of every possible person who can help shine a light in our doubts and concerns, people with whom you haven’t spoken to for years, even some stranger would do.

We look everywhere, everywhere but within ourselves. For is only you who truly knows all the variables, all the fears, all the desires, all the pros, all the contras, all the tools, all the doubts…who could possibly judge better? There is nothing wrong in looking for opinions, especially from the people who care about you the most, but you must know my friend, they won’t solve it for you and ultimately; they simply can’t.

So what do we do? We go back to what we already know: TRUST.
You know it, I know it; you must trust yourself. If you truly are the creator of your own life, if its you who has made every choice in your life, then you are the one responsible for creating this chance, this opportunity, for what is change if not an extra way on your road, one that offers a new road, with new possibilities and new findings. You can always choose not to follow this road and continue on the same path, it’s all about choices and what to do is totally up to you. If change knocks on your door, it’s probably the right time for you to consider a change, but in the end you and only you decide whether you are really ready to take it or not.

We can decide to waste time and energy worrying about it, or we can invest it on checking the possibilities. We can escape from it doing whatever we want to do, hoping it will go away, or we can face it and truly look inside ourselves searching for directions, searching for something that rings true, looking for the reasons that brought this change in front of our door.

Measure your options; look at your possibilities; get opinions if you will, but above all: make sure you ask and truly listen to the one person whose opinion really matter: YOU.
For no one else can live your life, for no one else can make your choices, for no one else can replace you.

Good luck with handling the changes that knock on your door.

Big hugs to all of you.